You get an emotional high when your posts hit a responsive chord with your audience, so you keep going after it, and you’re never fulfilled because you’ll always want more likes. The high of getting a like has a short half-life. A view or a like isn’t true support, and deep down, we know that. People who suffer from low self-esteem may continue to search for a feeling of worthiness online, paying more attention to their posts with low likes than high ones, because in spite of their need for positive feedback, they have the habit of confirming their negative self-image.
The world doesn’t need more selfies, the need to proclaim, to show the world, hey look, look at the shit I’ve done, calling out on people publicly when you have no idea of the actual story, the world doesn’t need your I-just-gave-birth photos, look at my child all covered in blood and placenta, oh for fuck’s sake, look around us, the world has lost its fucking mind, we not dealing with the information around us in a logical way, we crunching, we stealing, turning into conniving hypocrites who say more than we do, or do things for the sake of gaining fame and publicity, at the end of the day, we need our space, we need a safe space to clear our heads, to refresh our minds, the world doesn’t need to know what goes in in every second of our lives, the world doesn’t need to know, you don’t…
Why do they make it so hard for people to better themselves. So, growing up I never had a permanent house. As I grow older I’m learning to find stability in instabilities. I have moved around so much in my life I really do not have a place I can call home. Thus I have also learned to never attach to anything. I realized that home can be found in the people you surround yourself with and the memories and traditions that develop. Home is happiness and my happiness most times is with the people I love even if it is just myself at times. My own house. And I can’t wait to be there.
This poem by Ronald Chapman sums it up:
In the darkness of the night,
Away from all street lights,
Some drifters walk past.
A cold wind is blowing
Where are you going?
Please look at me.
Hopeless and desperate,
Hiding in the shadows,
Forgetting who I am.
You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically, to say “no” to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside. The enemy of the “best” is often the “good”.
Excerpt from Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey
I wonder why I don’t go to bed and go to sleep. But then it would be tomorrow, so I decide that no matter how tired I am, no matter how incoherent I am, I can skip one hour more of sleep and live.
Excerpt from The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath
Most people think of themselves as individuals, that there’s no one on the planet like them. This thought motivates them to get out of bed, eat food and walk around like nothing’s wrong.
Excerpt from Submarine by Joe Dunthorne
I began to draw an invisible boundary between me and other people. No matter who I was dealing with. I maintained a set distance, carefully monitoring the person’s attitude so that they wouldn’t get any closer. I didn’t easily swallow what other people told me. My only passions were books and music.
Excerpt from Sputnik Sweetheart by Haruki Murakami
A cat has absolute emotional honesty: Human Beings for one reason or another, may hide their feelings, but a cat does not.
Most people cannot think beyond tomorrow – that is how they are made. Very few people can think, “Okay this will happen, and then this is what will happen to my life. What can I do about that now?” It is very easy to go and pray to God. Whether something happens with your prayer or not, at least there is solace. There is a comfort zone that somebody is taking care of you. Please see, that is all you get from your devotion because your devotion has not crossed a certain level of intensity. All that you got is a little comfort in your mind that somebody is taking care of you. Beyond that there is nothing else. But people settle for this rather than seeking ultimate liberation because most people do not have the vision to do anything beyond a certain limitation of time. They cannot think of their ultimate liberation.
For example, Gautama Buddha, when he was a young man, he saw an old man, a sick man and a corpse. He observed these sights and these observations affected him deeply. The moment he saw this, he knew that this was what would happen to him too. This made him realize the sufferings of all beings and compelled him to begin his spiritual journey as a wandering ascetic, which eventually led to his enlightenment. He started working towards what he can do about it right now. This is an intelligent man. But most people do not have this kind of vision or intelligence to see life. For them, it has to fall on their head. Till then they don’t know. These kinds of people are just seeking solace for today. For such people, there is no depth to their prayer either; there is no depth to their devotion. It is just about solace – “God is taking care of me”. They are not looking to live in such a way that they are beyond all limitations. They are not seeking a life which is of transcendence. They are not seeking a life which is a power to decide their own destiny.
We are what we love to read, and when we admit to loving a book, we admit that the book represents some aspects of ourselves truly, whether it is that we are suckers for romance or pining for adventure or secretly fascinated by crime.
— Nina Sankovitch, Tolstoy and the Purple Chair: My Year of Magical Reading—
If you are interested in anything, you will focus on it, and if you focus attention on anything, it is likely that you will become interested in it. Many of things we find interesting are not so by nature, but because we took the trouble of paying attention to them.
― Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Finding Flow: The Psychology of Engagement with Everyday Life―